Unconventional Coaching

Energizing the relationships in your life
June 22, 2015
2:42 pm
Topic:
Balance


Trusting Myself »

  I was in the ER some years ago–in a cubicle with my friend, Jane, who was having seizures. (She was soon to be diagnosed with  brain cancer). As I stood there helpless, watching the nurse work on her, my friend’s husband stormed in and yelled that he wanted me out of there. I barely […]
March 19, 2013
9:17 pm
Topic:
Long-term Relationships


Staying Current »

As you cruise through your facebook or twitter every night and/or morning, have you noticed that often there isn’t much that grabs you? It is almost like, “Why bother?”  Yet you still do it. But then you have times when every post is meaningful–you are shifting from post to article to response and back. Your […]
February 19, 2013
8:31 pm
Topic:
Getting Real


What Do You Want? »

Have you asked yourself this lately?   It is often easier to know what you don’t want, what you can’t stand, what you will not put up with any longer! But that simple question, “What do you want?” Holds the seed of true desire. An opportunity to open yourself to possibility. What is underneath that […]
February 5, 2013
8:45 pm
Topic:
Getting Real


Releasing Disappointments in Relationships »

We recognize the feeling. We expected X and got Y, or even Z. How did this happen?! We thought she understood us, or he really cared, but suddenly the behavior towards us doesn’t fit. We feel lost, angry, or sad. We’re disappointed. It so easy for this to happen in relationships, because our ideas about […]
January 22, 2013
8:12 pm
Topic:
Connecting


Relationships are Hard Work. Really?? »

The New York Times had an interesting headline last week: “That Loving Feeling Takes a Lot of Work.” It actually is a terrific article by Jane Brody about bringing more surprise and pleasure into a relationship, but the title irks me. This equation: relationships = [hard] work is used so often that it has become […]
January 8, 2013
2:41 pm
Topic:
Fighting Fair


That Dreaded Conversation »

Someone asked me the other day about how to deal with an uncomfortable conversation. She was concerned because a relatively new friendship had entered a tough spot. This friend/acquaintance had suddenly seemed irritated with something (she had no idea what), and had asked to meet for coffee. What to say? How to be? She had […]
November 13, 2012
7:01 pm
Topic:
Connecting


Self-Disclosure »

I have been asked several times recently if I am in a good relationship. That’s easy. I am. What I mean by that is that we each feel that we are real, honest, and at the same time, still romantic and deeply in love. There is an amazing texture and complexity to our relationship–an understanding […]
October 17, 2012
7:11 pm
Topic:
Long-term Relationships


Feeling Bored in Your Relationship? One Surprising Thing to Try »

It’s so easy to feel discontented in a long-term relationship. We know all the bad stuff about our partner. The irritations can seems enormous. We  can feel misunderstood, criticized, underappreciated. This can happen to both men and women, though it may be expressed in different ways. I see it in my coaching practice–people who genuinely […]

7:02 pm
Topic:
Connecting


Two-Minute Relationship Boost »

Quick! Find at least four great things your partner has said or done in the last few days. We’re talking real live stuff here. Words and actions that involve you. They could be minimal–a few seconds longer in your kiss, a sideways smile–or big–helping you solve a work problem, or fixing an amazing dinner. Find […]

6:59 pm
Topic:
Balance


Hold On to Yourself »

Took this picture of my shoes the other day. I was out for an early morning walk in a lovely space–the air was quiet and clear. And, after a while, so were my thoughts. It’s just so important to stand on my own two feet. To hold on to myself. To walk at my own […]