Unconventional Coaching

Energizing the relationships in your life
September 19, 2013
6:21 pm
Long-term Relationships

Has Sex Moved To The Back Burner Of Your Relationship? »

So you’re in a relatively good relationship–been there a long time. But the juice is gone. Sex is only on the edges of your life. All the excuses are there. Well-worn territory. Want to get it flowing again? Here’s one small, sweet exercise that can take you to the land of possibility. Over a glass […]
March 19, 2013
9:17 pm
Long-term Relationships

Staying Current »

As you cruise through your facebook or twitter every night and/or morning, have you noticed that often there isn’t much that grabs you? It is almost like, “Why bother?”  Yet you still do it. But then you have times when every post is meaningful–you are shifting from post to article to response and back. Your […]
February 5, 2013
8:45 pm
Getting Real

Releasing Disappointments in Relationships »

We recognize the feeling. We expected X and got Y, or even Z. How did this happen?! We thought she understood us, or he really cared, but suddenly the behavior towards us doesn’t fit. We feel lost, angry, or sad. We’re disappointed. It so easy for this to happen in relationships, because our ideas about […]
January 22, 2013
8:12 pm

Relationships are Hard Work. Really?? »

The New York Times had an interesting headline last week: “That Loving Feeling Takes a Lot of Work.” It actually is a terrific article by Jane Brody about bringing more surprise and pleasure into a relationship, but the title irks me. This equation: relationships = [hard] work is used so often that it has become […]
January 8, 2013
2:41 pm
Fighting Fair

That Dreaded Conversation »

Someone asked me the other day about how to deal with an uncomfortable conversation. She was concerned because a relatively new friendship had entered a tough spot. This friend/acquaintance had suddenly seemed irritated with something (she had no idea what), and had asked to meet for coffee. What to say? How to be? She had […]
November 13, 2012
7:01 pm

Self-Disclosure »

I have been asked several times recently if I am in a good relationship. That’s easy. I am. What I mean by that is that we each feel that we are real, honest, and at the same time, still romantic and deeply in love. There is an amazing texture and complexity to our relationship–an understanding […]
October 17, 2012
7:11 pm
Long-term Relationships

Feeling Bored in Your Relationship? One Surprising Thing to Try »

It’s so easy to feel discontented in a long-term relationship. We know all the bad stuff about our partner. The irritations can seems enormous. We  can feel misunderstood, criticized, underappreciated. This can happen to both men and women, though it may be expressed in different ways. I see it in my coaching practice–people who genuinely […]

7:02 pm

Two-Minute Relationship Boost »

Quick! Find at least four great things your partner has said or done in the last few days. We’re talking real live stuff here. Words and actions that involve you. They could be minimal–a few seconds longer in your kiss, a sideways smile–or big–helping you solve a work problem, or fixing an amazing dinner. Find […]