Unconventional Coaching

Energizing the relationships in your life
Jan McClain,  Relationship Coaching My speciality is helping people thrive in their most important relationships.

Self-Disclosure »

I have been asked several times recently if I am in a good relationship. That’s easy. I am. What I mean by that is that we each feel that we are real, honest, and at the same time, still romantic and deeply in love. There is an amazing texture and complexity to our relationship–an understanding […]
Fighting Fair

Stuck in the Blamer/Victim Spin Cycle? »

You and your partner keep having the same argument over and over again. It’s as if you two are stuck in that old blamer/victim spin cycle. First, he complains about something,and then you answer back, just to defend yourself. Then he takes offense and brings up more issues. Now, you really feel defensive; he’s suddenly […]
Long-term Relationships

Feeling Bored in Your Relationship? One Surprising Thing to Try »

It’s so easy to feel discontented in a long-term relationship. We know all the bad stuff about our partner. The irritations can seems enormous. We  can feel misunderstood, criticized, underappreciated. This can happen to both men and women, though it may be expressed in different ways. I see it in my coaching practice–people who genuinely […]

Two-Minute Relationship Boost »

Quick! Find at least four great things your partner has said or done in the last few days. We’re talking real live stuff here. Words and actions that involve you. They could be minimal–a few seconds longer in your kiss, a sideways smile–or big–helping you solve a work problem, or fixing an amazing dinner. Find […]

Hold On to Yourself »

Took this picture of my shoes the other day. I was out for an early morning walk in a lovely space–the air was quiet and clear. And, after a while, so were my thoughts. It’s just so important to stand on my own two feet. To hold on to myself. To walk at my own […]
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